Words are like people. They possess characteristics and functions. Some words, such as the ubiquitous "F" word, act as bullies. These words are brash, vulgar, and unrefined, existing solely to draw attention to themselves. They face an identity crisis, questioning their role as a verb, adjective, or noun. They force themselves into all dialogues, striving for acceptance in respectable circles.
Some words provoke a reaction; others provoke thought. “Enough” is a thought-provoking word. While the “F” word is a bully, “enough” is a philosopher. This modest word wields a surprising amount of power, capable of influencing our perspectives, decisions, and actions. Like the “F” word, it has been banished from certain elements of society who don’t like the philosophical and psychological implications of the word.
Philosophically, "enough" poses important questions about our values and priorities. What does it mean to have enough? How much is enough? These questions force us to reflect on our personal definitions of success and happiness. The concept of "enough" challenges the notion that bigger is always better and invites us to consider the value of simplicity, moderation, and balance in our lives.
Psychologically, "enough" can greatly influence our behavior and emotional state. In a consumerist society, we're often driven by a desire for more money, possessions, and success. However, recognizing and embracing our "enough" can lead to a healthier mindset and improved well-being. It encourages us to appreciate what we have rather than chase after what we don't, fostering contentment and gratitude.
I’ve had a complicated relationship with “enough” all my life. It’s a word that eludes a specific definition. How much money is enough? I was asked that question years ago when I was ruining my life in the pursuit of money, which I thought was equivalent to the pursuit of happiness. How much money do you need before slowing down and enjoying life? I didn’t have an answer to that question. “I don’t have enough money” was equivalent to “I am not enough.“ That’s a recipe for unhappiness.
Now that I’m older and wiser (I hope), I can look back on my life and the lives of others and see that this pursuit of “enough” is not uncommon. Kurt Vonnegut tells the following story:
“True story, Word of Honor: Joseph Heller, an important and funny writer now dead, and I were at a party given by a billionaire on Shelter Island.
I said, “Joe, how does it make you feel to know that our host only yesterday may have made more money than your novel ‘Catch-22’ has earned in its entire history?” And Joe said, “I’ve got something he can never have.” And I said, “What on earth could that be, Joe?” And Joe said, “The knowledge that I’ve got enough.” Not bad! Rest in peace!”
One use of the word might increase happiness: “I’ve had enough.” Those words usually precede powerful decisions that change the course of our lives.
They say that when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change, then we will take action. Is there an area of your life where you’ve had enough pain to make a change?
Interesting Pat, very thought provoking. Words can help or hurt. Mother used to say once you verbalize something it no longer belongs to you. Choose with care!